{i think i say this every month...can you believe it's already December? i can't...really i can't. this year has flown by. it has been by far the fastest and yet the hardest year ever. i'm sure you all know why...we have now passed 17 months waiting for our referral. to date, this has been the hardest thing b and i have ever had to go through as a couple. when we started the adoption process last march we thought we would have a little one home by now. experiencing the giggles, the precious quiet moments, the ups and downs and seeing each other grow into our new roles. never in my wildest dreams would i have thought that it would take close to five years for us to grow our family. it has not been the easiest of times for me. i have to admit, i have never felt sadness like i have felt during this waiting period. some times it's over whelming. i'm ready for that sadness to leave and excitement to pick up where it left off. this is our path. we were meant to adopt.
our hearts and minds can only think about that little one in korea. we are ready to see our little c.}
{it hasn't all been sad though, i have met an incredible group of women who are supportive beyond belief and have managed to touch my heart multiple times with their sweet sweet words. without these women, my outlook on this wait would be much darker and much less hopeful. most of these women i have never met in person and i think that makes our relationship that much more incredible. our support committee was amazing to have this past year. i am forever greatful for my friend rachel and sisters putting it together and for everyone who participated! you all brought sunshine to our dark days each and every month! we love you! but the best part about this wait is that it's brought me and b closer then we've ever been before.
something unimaginable after 17 years together.}
{{Happy December!! let's hope this is the best month yet!!}
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I am always touched by your passionate words, Dana....not only when you express the sorrow you've felt, but the hope and positives you feel and have experienced. My prayers for you and Ben are that this will be a "December to remember"....and that the big red bow will be for a small bundle of joy. Love you both so much!
I pray every day you wait will be cherished. And I should do the same instead of waiting for things to be easier.
Though the waiting is hard and a challenge, it has to be so exciting to wonder why God has you waiting.
Cheers to a cherished December :)
Oh D, this is so rough... We had a looong process to referral too, so I get it. (This is why the Magical Moments thing started on my blog actually... I was *done* with the wait then) Like Lindsay said, there's a reason it's taking so long though, and I promise... it will be absolutely perfect when it does. Absolutely. Perfect. Hugs friend.
Awww, Dana, such sweet words. You've waited a LONG time. Like Christine said, it will be perfect timing when it happens. Those things are hard to believe until it actually happens. But when you see his little face, you will know because the best things are worth waiting for. He's coming - he's just around the corner! I like the idea of December being one to remember ... hmmm. Our December was VERY memorable last year ... :) I wish the same for you!
Your wait sounds so similar to ours. It was a long process to finally get our referral. Christine is right, when the referral comes it will be "absolutely perfect!" I hope it comes soon!
Dana, I can't even imagine having the wait that you have had so far. I have to say...glenn and i got unbelievably lucky. The whole process took 7 months from beginning to end for us and it now makes me very embarrassed that i was such a spaz during the wait when it doesn't even come close to what so many others have had to deal with. Despite the fact that we have yet to meet in person, from what i know of you so far, you are quite the amazing lady. You have dealt with all of these ups and downs with such grace and patience. You seriously deserve a medal or something! My wish for this christmas is for you....for you to get that amazing news that you and your hubby so very much deserve. Hugs to you, my friend!! xoxo
you are an amazing person. we also had a long wait to our first referral. i know it might not mean much now, but the wait truly will be worth it. i'm hoping and praying that this is your month! i can't wait until the day you announce your good news - friends from all over will be rejoicing right along with you!!!! hugs!
my dear friend...sometimes i wonder if this wait is this long specifically so i can meet and be encouraged by others that i would have otherwise never met...you have been such an encouragement to me and that in the midst of your own long wait! i am so thankful for you and hope that you will have great news to share so, so soon...i am hoping you find a whole lot of cheer in your december, dana :)
I am so glad we met - first as a follower of your crafting blog and then to discover you were adopting - for not just any country, but Korea!
Hoping and praying that your wait isn't for too much longer. Imagine what an amazing Christmas 2011 will be! I can't wait to read that you got "the call!!"
Dana, I hope and pray that December is the month for you and b. I feel so blessed to have you as a friend in my little blog community. When your referral day comes you might hear me screaming with joy from Illinois!! Out of everyone out there waiting for a referral, I'm still most excited for YOU.
here's to a very happy and magical december...and the most incredible 2011. the whole adoption process is so long and so difficult at times, and you are handling it like a rock star (and with an amazing cast of rock start friends that will see to it in an instant that a bad day only lasts a day with their support and encouragement)
~hugs~
oh girly that gave me chills. yes ... it's exciting. and you know the waiting & empty arms - that will pass & all be over soon. but you're right. the sadness is just something you just can't fully shake. UNTIL ... and we all know the rest of that sentence. you are so good for KNOWING & SHARING your feelings. you are such a strong, amazing, poised, sweet souled person. and so is your B. praying for you right now for that sadness ... it won't go away UNTIL. but i'm praying that day comes so soon & until that time you stay just the right amount of busy with your mind & hands so you don't have to feel it as much. :) HUGS girl!!!!!!!!!!!!
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