4.07.2011

*seeing his picture and a name*

on tuesday morning, b and i got to see our son for the first time. driving to our agency, i have to admit i was nervous but i didn't want to tell b because i was afraid he would wonder why i was feeling this way. right before we were about to get out of the car to walk in, he turned to me and said i'm nervous. after he said this to me, my nerves calmed down. i knew it was okay..like it was normal to be nervous. once we went into the building, we were greeted and told that the social worker would be right with us. my nerves came back. i think we waited for maybe five minutes and then the social worker came to get us. she took us to an office upstairs, we had never been upstairs so it was kind of a treat. it turns out the room was the director's office. inside, the director greeted us and then we all chit chatted about what had happened on monday. i still felt like i was on a cloud...dreaming all this.

we finally sat down and that's when they asked if we wanted to see our son. our son..did they just say our son? there were four pictures. two from his birth and two from his march well baby check up. when i first looked at his pictures, all i could think of is this really happening? am i really here? is this really MY son?

b and i commented on his beautiful long lashes, his full head of dark black hair, his sweet little lips, his kissable checks and his angelic appearance. he looked so peaceful and innocent in his march well baby pictures. he was sleeping and dressed in a yellow jumper and a pretty pink snow suit. we had a little chuckle about that but couldn't help but stare at this beautiful baby that was placed in front of us. he is ours and we are his. the director and the social worker both commented on how they thought he resembled b. i could finally see why they were saying this. his head was round like b's with dark black hair just like b's. we looked at his birth pictures and noted how tiny he looked. he little toes were sticking out from his over sized pants and his sweet little hands were curved around his head. he was the sweetest little baby i had ever seen. i wanted to really study the pictures but knew we had more to go over. so after looking at his pictures, the director started to discuss with us all his information. this is what i was looking forward to. i wanted to know more about our son. our s.o.n. i love to say this. i wanted to know where was he born, how he was doing, how big was he when we was born, how big is he now, is he healthy, what was his birth mother like and what type of foster family was taking care of him. all of this was answered. the first bit of information that was given to us told me that god had intended all along for him to be our son, it was his birthday. my heart skipped a beat after seeing what day he was born on. our son shares the same birthday as b's dad. how perfect is that? we went over all the other information, his birth family, his medical records, his foster family information and his recent well baby check up. he was so perfect for us. i held my tears in but let them flow later that day after thinking about all we had discovered. he is why we waited 21 months. it had to be the right time. 

here are some fun things that we learned about our son...

- he loves water and loves his bath times
- he is creeping and possibly crawling
- he's pulling himself to a standing position
-  he sleeps very well (this we could see was true based on his four sleeping pictures.)
- this is the one that melts my heart...he LOVES hugs!!! that is my son. i love them too sweet baby of mine!

so after talking about all his information it was time for us to leave. we said our goodbyes and left with pictures and information about our son. we couldn't wait to get to the car (we almost ran) so that we could call our family members. i of course texted a picture of our little guy to our parents and sisters so that they could see him. b called his mom and dad and i called my dad. we were both so very excited to finally be able to tell our parents about their grandson! b and i were beaming. we have a son. what an amazing feeling. we celebrated by going to starbucks and getting our favorite drinks! 

b had to go to work after the meeting so we didn't get to talk much. that night, we had one of the worst storms we've experienced in our house. we lost power for 21 hours. on tuesday night, we still did not have power but really wanted to figure out his full name. so while laying on our bed with battery operated tea lights...we looked through a baby name book. we had picked a couple names a long time ago and we really liked one of them but wanted to make sure it was the right name. we went through the millions of names and kept coming back to the same one. that's when we decided we didn't need to look any farther...we had his name already.

Oliver Yu-hyeon
oliver means peaceful and affectionate.....yu-hyeon means generous and kind.
it was perfect. it felt right. our oliver.

so now we are working on the acceptence paperwork. hopefully by friday, i will be able to drop it all off to our agency! 

17 comments:

Karen said...

Love it all! Congrats again!

Anonymous said...

Congratulations! What a thrilling time for you! I love reading referral stories, because it reminds me of ours. Oliver is a beautiful name too. We've had a lot of people comment that they think our Daniel (S. Korea) looks just like my husband. Even Daniel's foster parents said the same thing! I loved hearing that everyone thinks Oliver looks like b. Another sign that he is meant to be your baby! Hope the paperwork goes quickly as you travel to bring him home! Are you with the SWS?

Bridgette said...

Oh, what a wonderful story! Thanks for sharing! P.S. I have the Baby Book in your picture by Sara Midda. Raleigh's family gave it to us for Christmas last year. I was actually starting to fill out parts of it last night.

Congrats again!

Bridgette said...

oh...P.S. Our son might have to take lessons from Oliver because our son hates the bath! :) :) ha ha

Kris said...

I love this story and I LOVE his name!!!

b said...

wonderful recap of our events d and about OUR SON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hear.t. and hue said...

loved how you described the flood of information you wanted to receive on him. for 8 months he was cared for by someone else - but you can tell that the second you found out he was YOURS, you wanted to catch up on every detail bringing you up to that point. he is SO BLESSED to have parents like you & b who have been waiting to care & love him THAT MUCH. and i adore his name ... and the meaning. peaceful & affectionate = 2 things you got out of your 1st meeting where you learned about him. angelic baby who loves hugs. my heart is so happy - can't wait 'til the day he's living under your roof!!!! XOXOXO

Jaclyn said...

You write it all so perfectly, showing all the emotion. So happy for you and this special time. Enjoy memorizing every detail of YOUR son's photos :) And the name is precious.

kelly said...

Just think of the day when you can tell Oliver (LOVE the name!) about the night when there was a big loud storm and the power went off and his mommy and daddy laid on the bed with tea lights talking about what to name him. Sounds like a perfect story to me!!

Grace said...

as soon as i saw that O, i knew it was oliver -- and i love it!!! what a sweet name for a sweet little boy :)
i love that he looks like b -- we get comments about how cb looks like us and i find it so sweet and so meaningful...you're right, after seeing him, it is confirmation on why you had to wait those long and hard 21 months!
now that you have a name, what will his nursery decor be? 'cause you know, i need to know just in case i want to coordinate something...;)

Krista said...

Your son!! Over the moon with joy for you my friend! And Oliver, what a beautiful classic name.
(and love the pink snowsuit - so Korean!)

Kara said...

Congratulations again on your son! The name Oliver is beautiful. Isn't it amazing how the wait somehow all makes sense when you see your child's face? And how special that his birthday is the same as his grandpa's!

Sue said...

"he is why we waited 21 months"...oh, how those words made me smile. oliver...your son...perfect for each other. what a wonderful, wonderful story!! i am so incredibly happy for you and b!!

Colleen said...

i'm so happy to get to read all of the exciting details of your referral! i truly had chills reading it! your son is beautiful and i can not wait for the day that i see him in your arms! xoxo

JaM said...

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS! SOO HAPPY FOR YOU!

And random fact, pink is commonly used for dressing boys in Korea. Red is a manly color (for war, blood, etc) and therefore pink is a boy color. Likewise blue is a girl color (for flowers, sky, etc.).

Christine @ 12,450miles said...

I loved reading all the details of your story... I soaked them all up. What a great story!!!

And the name... I love love love the name! I can't wait to tackle you in a couple of days! :-)

Anonymous said...

Obviously I am so, so behind in catching up with your blog, but wanted to say CONGRATULATIONS! I'm so happy for you, your husband, and Oliver. What a sweet, sweet boy! :)